In today’s post I wanted to discuss a factor that is indeed a reality for me, which is being an introvert. Therefore, I’d like to talk about living at University as one. Why? I’ve certainly come across hurdles in terms of adjusting to it, and I thought it’d be good to share with you.
Before I go on, I’d like to stress that the intention of this post is not to outcast introverts OR extroverts. Nor am I here to say which one is “right or wrong“, because that would in fact be incorrect. I only want to share my experience so far. Hopefully this can help anyone who can relate.
I don’t want to sit here and write about how difficult it has been, because that’s not exactly the case. Let’s just say I want this to come across as an open discussion. This is my experience, it isn’t factual to any other introverts necessarily.
Whether this is a trait of introverts or whether it’s just the nature of my personality and way of life, but it’s safe to say before University, my social life was certainly low-key. Night’s out happened on a monthly basis rather than weekly. My ideal Friday night was to cwtch up on the sofa, with a cup of tea and a book. Yes, call me boring if you like. However, that was my “norm”.
With regards to that side of things, I’ve certainly struggled to adapt to being more social. I’ve definitely pushed myself out of my comfort zone many a time, because I’ve felt that it’s the best way of bonding e.g with both flat and course mates. I don’t regret it one bit nevertheless it’s been draining.
This is what I find difficult as an introvert. The explaining. How do you explain that being around people for too long drains you? It’s a tough subject to address. Of course, the fear of people thinking oddly of you is the main reason. I feel like introversion is something that needs to be discussed more purely for this reason.
It’s hard to explain it to another being without them thinking that you have something against them. We introverts don’t become drained necessarily because we dislike the person, but because we need our alone time to recharge. It’s a necessity to stay sane, which is ironic because it feels like I sound mad when I explain this.
Don’t get me wrong, both my flat and course mates are some of the loveliest people I’ve had the pleasure of meeting and I am so lucky to have had a positive experience. Nonetheless, this whole experience of adjusting has been a challenge to say the least.
It’s odd to say I’m not used to spending so much of my time around others but it’s the truth. Funnily enough, I spoke about this with one of my flat mates who is very much extroverted and she’s the complete opposite. Yet we can still relate and appreciate one another.
A simple word to remember, but the most important- balance. I can’t speak for extroverts, but I know for me, a balance of spending time with my flat/course mates alongside 20 minutes or so in my own space has helped me millions.
I’ve certainly been wary of not isolating myself in my room, purely because it’s easy to start feeling lonely in these kinds of circumstances. Us introverts naturally like to be snuggled up in our bubbles and whilst this is important for recharging, it’s sometimes good to push ourselves further than our nests.
What’s important to note here is that, there’s nothing wrong with the way you are. Whether you function best when you’re around others, or in your own space by yourself, it’s what makes you, you. Never change that. You are the way you are for a reason. It enables you to do things others can’t and vice versa.
Ciao for now x