Feel very free to criticize me because I am currently writing this post because I’m avoiding getting work done… You guessed it. Today’s post is about stress/worry and avoidance. For me personally, I constantly find myself worrying more than needed over pieces of work that need to be done (for University). Nevertheless, my temporary solution always seems to be avoidance.
Procrastination is what you could potentially call it, but I hate to label myself with that term. Purely because it makes me feel lazy and inadequate, do not ask me why.
Of course, worry and stress are very much natural feelings. We worry because we feel stressed, and we feel stressed because we worry. An extremely vicious cycle.
Whether you’ve gone two days without doing any work or a week, the worst thing you can do is beat yourself up about. As silly as it sounds, forgive yourself. Let it go. So what if you missed a few days or more? A cliche, but, what you’ve got left is now. Use your time wisely.
Look at what needs to be done and make a list of it. It’s surprising how much your mind can be put at ease when you write a to-do list. Remember not everything needs to be done at once. Take it one task at a time.
Another trait of mine is to not do work because I’m so scared of failing, so logically I’m better off not doing it at all, right? If you fall victim to this one, I know you don’t need me to tell you that it’s the complete opposite of ‘logical’. What I can and will tell you is that there’s no need to fear what hasn’t happened. Believe in yourself! Would you feel better if you’d tried and failed or just given up?
Failing at something doesn’t make YOU a failure. Failing means there’s room for growth and actually, growth is good. If we were to succeed first time at everything that came our way, we’d soon lose the ability to appreciate what we go on to achieve.
Achievement comes from hard work and dedication, not hand-outs. Most importantly, achievement is not how it appears but what it is to you. It can appear both big or small to others but really is huge for said person, if that makes any sense at all!
I am writing this in the hope that someone sees it and breathes a sigh of relief, or can at least relate in some way. It’s easy to get caught up in our own minds and especially beat ourselves up whilst falsely believing that everyone else is perfect and that we’re big failures due to a few mistakes made. However, as they say, mistakes need to happen in order to learn and move forward in life.
So, please, give yourself a break. Make mistakes, and learn from them. Mess up, and move on. Life is a big old mess, it’s really all about what you do with it. You can do this – whatever that is.
Ciao for now x