Happiness. An element of life we all find ourselves constantly chasing.
“Once I’m happy, everything will fall into place”. Right? But how do we even define happiness? Is it a destination that we get to or simply a feeling we can all experience?
When happiness is seen as achievable rather than something only the special among us have, it really can be found in the nooks and crannies of everyday life. It can be your favourite mug, a close friend or just the fact that you managed to shower and get dressed that day.
The first few months of 2019 proved challenging for me as I adapted to big changes and started what I can only describe as a personal transition. I began facing who I am, what terrifies me and bits of me that I used to despise. Throughout it all the lovely people I was lucky enough to surround myself with were the biggest crutch and I’ll forever be grateful for that.
For a long time I didn’t feel happy. I didn’t feel as though I was living with purpose and I struggled daily to get out of my rut. During that period, getting up was a big enough of a task for the day, let alone actually getting s**t done! What got me by were the little joys. The spontaneous trips out, a goofy belly laugh with my friends or just zoning out with a cup of tea and a good book.
Life doesn’t have to necessarily be okay for you to experience happiness. As silly as it sounds, it’s less of an end goal and more of a goal to strive for each day, if only for a few minutes of said day.
Strive for slices of happiness. Crumbs even! What are you grateful for today? When going through a tough time it’s difficult to find even the tiniest bit of good but I promise you it’s there.
As a lot of us know, living can feel like a lot of effort during a hard time. I’ll still experience days where I’d rather sleep the day ahead than face what needs to be done. That is exactly why it’s so important that you congratulate yourself the most on the days where you’ve achieved the least. Give yourself a pat on the back for just making it through that day.
Of course, it was my wise mum who always taught me to tackle big and/or daunting tasks one minuscule step at a time. For example if the goal is to leave the house, place your focus on getting your shoes on. Then tying your laces or putting your coat on. And so on and so forth. Congratulate yourself for each step made even if you can’t reach the end goal on that particular day. You tried after all and that’s what matters the most.
Ciao for now x