A Realistic Guide To Self-Acceptance

The journey of self-acceptance is more often than not a tricky one for many of us. Ironically, it’s one of the hardest things for us to accept we deserve purely because we hold a strong belief that we aren’t worthy of actually loving and embracing who we are – internally and externally. This is especially true if we aren’t in such a good place mentally.

Becoming more self-accepting means building a certain resilience to the challenges we face daily. These can be self-consciousness, insecurities, or convincing ourselves we don’t “fit in” to social constructions. The biggest battle is the constant mental chatter trying to pull us in all kinds of directions to believe things that simply aren’t true.

It’s hard to accept who you are physically, mentally, or both even, when society tries to fit us into a certain mould. A mould based on what’s trendy at said time. We are constantly led to believe that who we are isn’t worthy enough of love, especially of our own accord.

Whilst it’s easy to fall victim to this “mould” and become frustrated that we don’t, in some way or another, fit into society’s expectations, it’s important to be brave enough to look beyond that. We can’t let society or social media make us feel like we don’t belong because we all deserve to be here and feel accepted. BUT, acceptance must start from within.

After getting upset after a few comments made on my appearance a couple of weeks ago, my friend turned to me and said “But, why do you care? What they say has no relevance in your life”. This got me thinking – it hurts because it plays on elements of myself that I don’t feel fully secure or confident about. Why do I care? Because I’ve become so reliant on others’ opinions and comments of me that, I’ve abandoned the person whose acceptance I need the most – myself! How can I expect anybody else to accept me if I continue to put myself down?

You must see that there is a clear difference between confidence and arrogance. They are NOT the same thing. Being confident in who you are doesn’t mean you think you’re any more important than the next person. It means you can see and appreciate your own worth. This is especially important when people hurt us or we face rejections – this is the resilience we’ve built to sustain mental wellbeing.

Acceptance helps us heal and overcome any troubles or challenges we may be currently facing. Acceptance means facing something head on, whether that’s an insecurity you may have or mental health challenges. What’s the benefit of that? We are no longer able to run away from the things that cause us pain, whilst this of course is difficult initially, it sets us up in the long-run should we put in the time and dedication.

So how do we begin the journey of self-acceptance?

  1. Follow people and accounts on social media that will make you feel GOOD. Unfollow anybody or anything that brings any negativity into your life. Modern day living means we spend around 136 minutes on social media (according to Statista) – who you follow matters!
  2. Physically spending time with people that positively impact your thoughts and/or feelings is just as important as the people and accounts you follow on social media. You can also choose who you spend your time with daily.
  3. Stop restricting yourself to one thing. Embrace what different environments and people bring out in you. It’s strange when you think you’re a certain personality e.g. quiet, private etc and suddenly a change of environment encourages you to become chatty and open – but, it’s okay to be more than one “you”. Embrace the weird, the messy, and the whole lot of crazy.
  4. Learn to accept that not everyone you come across will like you – equally not everyone will dislike you. Nine times out of 10, it’s NOT personal. As mentioned above, when we feel insecure about a certain quality of ours, we do tend to care about people who hold no significance to us in the grand scheme of things.
  5. Embrace every single thing that makes you unique – you’d be a completely different person without those elements. Sometimes, it’s better to be different than to fit in to society’s norm.

If you’d like to get in touch, leave feedback or ask any questions please contact me!

Ciao for now x

Posted by

Wellbeing writer, host for The Inspired Narrative podcast and mental health support worker.

28 thoughts on “A Realistic Guide To Self-Acceptance

  1. I love this!

    If we just take enough time to really accept ourselves and not beat ourselves up so often, we’ll be very well set on our way to greatness.

    That is the journey I am currently on. Not an easy one (considering I’ve been beating myself up for the past 22 years), but one that I can will be a great asset to me!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Thank you for this great article! Texts like this have really helped me a lot and enjoy reading them so much. I recently started a blog called searchingforconfidence.wordpress.com and I want to invite you to have a read! That would mean a lot, lots of love

    Liked by 1 person

  3. hello!,I love your writing so so much! share we keep up
    a correspondence extra about your article on AOL? I need an expert on this space to
    solve my problem. May be that’s you! Looking forward to see you.


  4. hello!,I like your writing very a lot! percentage we be in contact more about your post
    on AOL? I need an expert on this house to solve
    my problem. May be that is you! Taking a look ahead to see you.


  5. I was wondering if you ever considered changing the layout of your website?
    Its very well written; I love what youve got to say. But maybe you could a little more in the way of content so people could connect with it better.
    Youve got an awful lot of text for only having 1
    or two pictures. Maybe you could space it out better?


  6. In marijuana, the best-known compound is delta-9 tetrahydrocannabinol aka THC,
    according to the majority of records. As well as THC is
    one of the most energetic part of cannabis. As a matter of fact, cannabis has both CBD and also THC in it.
    And the effects of both these substances differ.

    When smoked or used in food preparation, THC imparts a “high” result.

    Really, THC tends to break down in heat or when it gets in the body.
    On the other hand, CBD is not psychedelic, which indicates it has no result
    on your frame of mind when taken in.

    Yet CBD can develop modifications in your body. Actually, according to some study studies, it may have lots of medical advantages also.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s