Answering Your Questions – August 2020

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At the end of July, I set up an Agony Aunt section on my blog. For as long as I can remember I’ve had a passion for helping those around me and doing what I can to make a difference. I will be answering questions on a monthly basis. Thank you to those of you who left a question and if you’d like to get in touch with an anonymous question, please do so!

  1. How to deal with being unemployed after graduating (or just in general)? Dealing with obsessive thoughts because of this (checking emails literally every two seconds), feeling as though I will never be good enough in such a competitive market. Thank you!

Unemployment is challenging but I do believe, if you are willing to put the work in, things will work out as they are meant to. It’s certainly easier to sit and tell you to trust the process when you’re struggling to make ends meet and feel like your three years (or more) of hard work has gone to waste. It’s important to remember that we are in a recession right now and so the competition is a lot higher and getting your foot in the door that little bit more challenging, so be kind to yourself – even when you feel like beating yourself up. Remember that rejection is not a reflection of your worth and you are unique in your own way which makes you good enough – ALWAYS.

I wrote a blog post on 2020 graduates and unemployment here, I hope this provides further insight.

2. Advice on how to deal with making plans with people at the moment when no one is social distancing but I’m still panicking about catching COVID-19?

Firstly, have patience with yourself. Do what you can to protect yourself such as washing your hands and wearing a mask if possible. Those who belong in your life will have the decency to give you time and understanding if you explain as best as you can how you are feeling about everything. Read that once more.

Maybe suggest a location that isn’t going to be jam-packed full of people i.e. if you live in a city, look for a local cafe outside of the centre. To ease yourself into it, perhaps avoiding peak times would be beneficial? Parks are a lot quieter in the morning as well as most cafes. I hope this helps!

3.      How to stop imagining symptoms of coronavirus ?? Seriously my anxiety is manifesting itself as corona symptoms I’ve been tested 3 times always negative it’s just anxiety and I’m fed up!

It’s hard to think clearly when your mind is coming up with irrational thoughts and so it’s important to recognise that this is what your mind is doing. You don’t need to try and stop the thoughts from coming but recognise what’s going on and BREATHE. Take yourself away from whatever situation you’re in if possible and give your mind and body a minute to calm down. The tests are useful evidence to support the likelihood that your symptoms are as a result of anxiety. It’s also worth tracking how you feel when you become anxious compared with symptoms of coronavirus (and I mean the main symptoms).

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Wellbeing writer, host for The Inspired Narrative podcast and mental health support worker.

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